God’s Ink and Pen – Saying Yes to HIS Story

by Cryssie Addis

Today my friend Cryssie scatters seeds of courage as she shares her story of saying “Yes!” It’s brave and the results are unexplainable! Whatever “Yes!” is resonating in your heart, go with it!!!

brooke-cagle-65601“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven,”

Ecclesiastes 3:1

I remember the very moment my husband called me to tell me that he had gotten called for an interview in Portland, OR.  I was having lunch with one of my girlfriends and hung up the phone in shock.  I knew he had been looking for jobs outside of Texas but Portland, OR?  That was so far.

My friend Carrie was immediately supportive and excited for us.  She said, “Maybe this is what you guys need after the year you have had, a new adventure with your husband!  Y’all are a young couple, I say GO FOR IT!”  I got home after lunch to a very excited yet nervous husband.  We discussed it for a lengthy period of time and decided that he would go for it, he would go to the interview in Portland and see what happens!

The week he was gone was the longest week of my life.  Not only was it the longest I had ever been apart from my handsome husband but it was a week of nervousness and prayerfulness of what was to be.  I knew in my heart of hearts that this was God’s best yes for us but I felt so very nervous.  I had just left full time ministry and a job that I loved so much and now this move was upon us.  There was so much change going on and so quickly at that!  The day I put in my resignation at the church, I felt sad yet so excited because I knew it was God’s best yes for me.  I loved my job at the church but God had been prompting my husband and me that it was time to close that door.  I honestly had no idea why.  I just knew that there were things He needed to do with me and that working at the church was no longer in His plan.

When Darin flew in from Portland, he hadn’t heard if he had gotten the job yet.  It wasn’t until the next day that his phone rang and Darin stepped away.  All I heard was Darin tell the person on the other end of the line that he would need to speak with his wife and he would be calling them back.  When Darin came out from the back room with a huge smile on his face, I knew at that very second that God had orchestrated this whole move.  He knew long before we did that He would be moving us cross country to the Pacific Northwest.  We had talked about moving before but Portland, Oregon had not been on our radar.  This move literally happened in days.  We only had a couple of days to pack and load a U-Haul, say goodbye to loved ones and then head off to a new adventure.  This was God’s best yes for us.

I think about the orchestration of this divine plan and it makes me smile every time.  One decision to be obedient in leaving a job I adored so much allowed both my husband and me to take a giant step into our calling.  I knew after our miscarriage in January of 2016 that I wanted to help other women who have experienced pregnancy loss, infertility and/or PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome).  As much as I loved ministry at the church and as much as I believed in the Life Group Ministry I was leading, my heart was with women who were hurting.  I felt a drive and a need to be there for them.  In this move, God has opened amazing doors for me to do just that.  Not only has my Life Coaching practice allowed me to walk alongside women who have battled infertility, pregnancy loss, child loss and/or women who suffer from PCOS but I also mentor countless women each week as an online mentor for Focus on the Family.  If somebody had told me a year ago that my husband and I would be living in the Pacific Northwest, 1,682 miles away from my family and that I, little ol’ Cryssie Addis from West Texas, would be mentoring for Focus on the Family, I would have told you to shut the front door!  But this is what happens when we are not afraid of the best yes for our lives.  We might not completely understand, we might have some nervousness and it might even be hard to be obedient but His best yes for us is so important and vital to the way our lives fall together for His glory.

“The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.” Psalm 37:23

God had a plan for me the day I gave my resignation to a job I loved dearly!  He knew that He was writing a new chapter for the Addis Family and the only way He could place us on those written pages was if I let go.  He had me at the church for a wonderful season and for many beautiful reasons.  He grew me so much in that ministry and I made amazing life-long friendships there, like this one with Denise!  The season had come to an end and I could have ignored his prompting and continued on a path that wasn’t written for me or I could have been obedient and allowed Him to continue to write our story with HIS pen!

Whatever He is leading you to do, whatever big step He is asking you to make…..make it!  Say, “Yes,” to what He is asking you to say, “Yes,” to and say “No,” to what He needs you to say, “No,” to and let go when it’s time to let go.  God will never ask us to give something up without having something already in line to replace it.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

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Cryssie Addis

Coaching with Cryssie

PCOS, Pregnancy Loss and Infertility Coach

 

”Helping women to walk in purpose by encouraging, inspiring and walking alongside them.”

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Weed Whacking

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By Denise Dietz

For years I’ve been in an all-out-war with weeds. As a gardener the first sign of them signals an immediate warning that an action plan is needed. I begin considering the options. Do I pull it, burn it, poison it, whack it or let it go?

Weeds have a reputation for being good for nothing and I’ve long viewed them as an evil enemy. Recently I was studying permaculture design concepts and our teacher, Geoff Lawton, shed a whole new light on my view of enemy weeds. He explained that weeds fill niches (holes) in ecosystems and suggested that before we bring out the arsenal of weapons to destroy them, we should stop to ask the questions, “What hole are they filling and why are they there?” If we are patient, we can gain a tremendous amount of wisdom from weeds. We can learn to view them as opportunities instead of opposition to our best gardening efforts. For instance the common weed, dandelion has a long tap root and grows in compacted soils. So if you observe them flourishing, you might consider the condition of your soil.

When we force our ecosystem to be non-diverse, we create hundreds of holes. When an ecosystem has reached a stable function – there are not weeds. There cannot be, because there are no holes and it has complete integrity. What genius God has revealed to us in His creation. All living things have an intrinsic worth.

Slowing down the action against these evil intruders brought to my mind a parable Jesus told about allowing the weeds and wheat to grow together. Here’s how it goes:

The Parable of the Weeds Explained (Matthew 13:36-43)

36 Then he left the crowd and went into the house. His disciples came to him and said, “Explain to us the parable of the weeds in the field.”

37 He answered, “The one who sowed the good seed is the Son of Man. 38 The field is the world, and the good seed stands for the people of the kingdom. The weeds are the people of the evil one, 39 and the enemy who sows them is the devil. The harvest is the end of the age, and the harvesters are angels.

40 “As the weeds are pulled up and burned in the fire, so it will be at the end of the age. 41 The Son of Man will send out his angels, and they will weed out of his kingdom everything that causes sin and all who do evil. 42 They will throw them into the blazing furnace, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. 43 Then the righteous will shine like the sun in the kingdom of their Father. Whoever has ears, let them hear.

So my friends – just before you power up that weed whacker, pause for a moment and observe! The reason for their existence reaches far beyond our understanding. A time is coming, very soon, when the harvesters will take care of the weeds once and for all.

 

Original post published on Prize31.com, October 10, 2015

Trust the Process…

hd_pictures_of_galloping_horses_01Are you serious – Me?  An inexperienced, 145lb, weak female – is going to enter this corral with a giant horse, make a connection, establish trust and lead him to take a few steps alongside me?  I could not imagine how this was possible.  There was no bit in his mouth to force the lead, no carrot to bribe him, no spurs on my boots, and sizing him up to myself further confirmed my insufficiency.   I’m struggling to trust myself, how will I ever trust the process?

I leaned in to listen carefully to our coach.  Congruency was very important because faking it never works with a horse.  They really know when you are afraid, which is okay.  You just have to admit how you’re feeling.  The horse will respect your comfort zone of engagement.  I found myself racing through a range of emotions before entering that corral.   With instructions to rock back, breath and then say out loud how I was feeling – the process began.   This was the start of a life-change dance.  As I took a few steps in I paused; looking, listening, and awaiting his notion to connect.  It happened; he turned to acknowledge my presence; which lead me to take a few more steps toward him.  At this time, my hope of this working began to rise.  As he exhaled deep from his nostrils my coach said, he’s relaxed – go ahead and approach him.  Coming along his side I reached my hand out for the connection and he nuzzled his nose into my hand with affirmation that he too was happy to meet.  I gently stroked his cheek in celebration of this huge milestone.

Now, the next big step…will he take a few steps with me?  Was our connection strong enough for him to trust my lead?  My coach nudged me out of the comfort of our side-by-side relationship and said, “Go ahead, take a few steps.”  Sure enough, this giant horse stepped right along with me.  Exhilarating, I was humbled beyond belief by this process.  As I’ve translated this experience to human relationships it’s insight for more meaningful connections.  You see this horse taught me the importance of connection over perfection.  He accepted my frailty, insecurity and lack of experience.

Creation is God’s ultimate classroom.   Trinity, who is THE horse of the herd, shared this profound insight for humans:  “I do not understand your judgement upon one another and your interpretations of experiences, because I only respond and react to what is.  My emotions are always right.  My behaviors are just information and my senses are always perfectly honed to every sound, nuance and movement extending far beyond what you can comprehend.  Humans at one time had these skills, but through time, un-resourceful conditioning, and choosing to ignore their own emotions and feelings, they have become numb and dull to the richest and truest experiences of life.  Too many humans stand beside a tree and never hear the bird sing.”

Friend, whatever corral you are entering may you have all the more courage to trust the process, following your gut and apologize if necessary!  You’ll soon find your life unbridled, grazing in pastures of peace – digesting the fruit of congruency.  Rock back, breath and trust the process.  It’s a process, worthy of our trust.  I’m thankful to be grazing these green pastures with you.

Originally Published on Prize31.com  on  May 9, 2016

Harmony…

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Rush. Ache. Push. Tired. Empty. Capacity. Consumed. Spent.
Blind. Vulnerable. Dizzy. Foggy. Robot. Deaf. 
Dying. Unmet. Broken. Heavy. Confused. Lost.
These were symptoms of our
OVERLOADED lives.
 

Until it all came to a screeching HALT, we thought our lives were good, normal and prosperous!  We had no room left in our lives and everything was at max capacity – our time, our money, our bodies and health were completely and constantly spent.  We could have easily lived our entire lives in this condition, but God graciously allowed an epic failure to get our attention.  Immediately, everything STOPPED and STRANGELY…we began to hear, see and feel like never before.

As we allowed an old life to pass away and new life to emerge, a simplified view of what’s important took root in our thinking.  It became more significant to have time to talk than to have things to do.  We desired eternal life more than accumulating stuff in this life.  The prestige of what we did became a diminishing glory as we looked closer and closer at what God does. It continues to be a life-changing journey.

We still labor at keeping our lives anchored, so we don’t effortlessly drift away into the same rat race that robbed us of life before.  Simple always seems better, but what really makes life meaningful today is hearing the music of our hearts.  As a family of 5, owners of a small business and with kids ranging from teen to toddler – there’s more opportunity than ever for overloaded life.  What we’ve learned is that Harmony is the best balance.  It allows everyone to be true to who they are, on the journey to becoming who God designed them to be, in participation with others…who lovingly were joined to their lives. 

I listen for the noise of chaos and find ways to adjust the sound.   A busy schedule doesn’t necessarily mean we are out of balance, but it is most definitely followed with the soft tones of rest and relaxation.  Having nothing to do, doesn’t mean we are boring or disengaged…it just means we have room to spontaneously be available and bless.  Our commitments tend to have a more flexible form and function, but we remain deeply devoted.  It’s what works for us and hearing our hearts sing is a beautiful thing.

One of the greatest composers, Bach describes finding harmony:
In the architecture of my music I want to demonstrate to the world of the architecture of a new and beautiful social commonwealth. The secret of my harmony? I alone know it. Each instrument in counterpoint, and as many contrapuntal parts as there are instruments. It is the enlightened self-discipline of the various parts, each voluntarily imposing on itself the limits of its individual freedom for the well-being of the community. That is my message. Not the autocracy of a single stubborn melody on the one hand, nor the anarchy of unchecked noise on the other. No, a delicate balance between the two; an enlightened freedom. The science of my art. The art of my science. The harmony of the stars in the heavens, the yearning for brotherhood in the heart of man. This is the secret of my music.” – Johann Sebastian Bach
 
Harmony is a state of allowing people to be, belong and become!
 Make music my friends!!!

Life…inside, out!

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Observation: For many years now, I’ve propagated sweet potatoes for the garden. The process begins by suspending a sweet potato with tooth picks halfway down in a cup of water. Place the potato in a window seal or location that receives a good portion of light. In a short time you will begin to see sprouts of new life emerging from the sweet potato. These are called “slips” and once they are 4” – 6” you can pinch them off and place in a separate cup of water to grow roots. This happens within 2-4 days. Once a good root system is established, the plants can be planted outside in a sunny location.

Interpretation: This year, as I’ve watched this process emerge a “sweeter” than “sweet potatoes truth emerged. All of God’s creation is designed to produce life. I’ve been so accustomed to “consuming” life, surviving, but not fully thriving. As I watched the sweet potato transform, exposed to the elements of light and water it was flourishing — the truth became very real to me. These elements had influenced the sweet potato in a way that it began producing life abundantly. Once the slips are planted this one potato has the potential of creating hundreds of potatoes.

Application: Our design for life is equally productive. Our constant communion with God makes it possible for us to not be consumed by life. We have all that we need in Him. He implanted life in us from the day we were created. Our bodies, like the sweet potato, can heal because He designed them to. All we do is abide in Him and new life begins to emerge. Rather than consuming life, we can live more abundantly from the inside out!!!

I invite you to put this lesson into action. Get ‘ya a sweet potato and see what happens right before your eyes. Even if you don’t enjoy eating them, they are beautiful ground cover with little purple flowers.

SWEET POTATO FUN FACT: They are highly nutritious and accredited with saving more lives than any other food – through the depression, malnutrition and poverty!

FUN FACT ABOUT YOU: You are sweeter than a sweet potato. May your communion with God flourish!!!

Here’s more on growing Sweet Potatoes from the Old Farmer’s Almanac: http://www.almanac.com/plant/sweet-potato

Is Consumerisim Trashing Our Potential?

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Yes!! A fresh picked cantaloupe from my garden was on the butcher block ready to be diced into a fabulous summer treat {insert big cheesy smile}. Slice, it was nothing new… then something unexpected happened in that knife piercing moment: the seeds slimming out of the middle seemed to have a message…

For the first time I realized how trashing those seeds would be a huge loss of potential. Then the thought, “Seeds are a gardener’s treasure!!” “The original plant came from an heirloom variety, which holds marvelous potential to produce… hundreds, thousands, possibly millions more just like it!” My mind was racing and reality struck my heart with sincere conviction.

As a gardener, I’ve learned how to harvest, save and re-sow seeds. After successfully propagating them, I began sending them all over the United States and even as far away as Germany! As word came back about the harvest others were enjoying, the learning penetrated deeper, “If I had thrown them away this potential would have never been realized….”

So now, I’m asking myself, “How much potential am I trashing in other areas?”

Life is not disposable or replaceable – we are packed full of seeds.

Our cultural grooming in consumerism makes disposable and convenience attractive. On the contrary, God has creatively designed things to last…flourish and multiply. In explaining the Kingdom of God, Jesus tells us, “It is like a mustard seed planted in the ground. It is the smallest of all seeds, but it becomes the largest of all garden plants, it grows long branches, and birds can make nests in its shade.” (Mark 4:30-32) It’s a simple lesson in giving attention to the small things: Seeds.

As we continue our learning and growing, I’d like to offer any reader who “digs” sowing seeds – a healthy portion of those cantaloupe seeds. If you’ll post a note below, I’ll make arrangements to mail you some seeds from my seemingly insignificant little urban farm in Tulsa, Oklahoma. It will be fun to hear how much further this lesson can go!!! ~ Denise

 

Originally Published for Prize31.com on April 15, 2013

Seeds of Potential

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“Gardens represent deep emotional connections with memories, people and places.”

Author Unknown

 

Something is keeping me awake at night…S-E-E-D-S! Every fiber of my being is awakened to the sense the time is near to cultivate the ground and launch all that potential into opportunity. Seedtime is far more exciting than harvest. If you were to ask my preference, “Which would you rather have a bouquet of flowers or packet of seeds?,” I would adamantly reply, “Give me SEEDS!” There is an absolute wonder in watching something that looks so small and insignificant, take root and erupt into a thriving creation that produces far beyond its small beginning. The divine lessons have made my life rich with wisdom and motivation. In choosing to sow seeds of kindness, I’ve seen a harvest of greatness. Seeds of honesty bring forth freedom and love will produce a grand bouquet in life. These are all beautiful things!

Ultimately our very lives are a seed, conceived by a sperm and egg (a little creation education here) – and when our time on Earth ends and we journey into eternity the only thing that remains are the seeds we’ve sown. The bouquet of life is realized in eternity. It’s the ultimate harvest of our choices and actions on Earth.

As our days are numbered on Earth, let’s make the most of them. Scatter, sow and cultivate seeds of all kinds. I would delightfully welcome the opportunity to exchange seeds with you – I have sunflower, okra and kale to exchange. Just post a little note below with what you have to offer or would like and let the sowing begin!!! My friends, it’s time.

Does gardening frustrate you? Would you like to garden smarter? LEARN SIMPLE and PRODUCTIVE GROWING METHODS… this brilliant (God-minded) approach to gardening called, Back to Eden, has transformed my systems and efforts. You can stream it online for FREE at http://vimeo.com/28055108 or order the DVD http://www.backtoedenfilm.com.

 

Originally published on Prize31.com. March 7, 2014