Trust the Process…

hd_pictures_of_galloping_horses_01Are you serious – Me?  An inexperienced, 145lb, weak female – is going to enter this corral with a giant horse, make a connection, establish trust and lead him to take a few steps alongside me?  I could not imagine how this was possible.  There was no bit in his mouth to force the lead, no carrot to bribe him, no spurs on my boots, and sizing him up to myself further confirmed my insufficiency.   I’m struggling to trust myself, how will I ever trust the process?

I leaned in to listen carefully to our coach.  Congruency was very important because faking it never works with a horse.  They really know when you are afraid, which is okay.  You just have to admit how you’re feeling.  The horse will respect your comfort zone of engagement.  I found myself racing through a range of emotions before entering that corral.   With instructions to rock back, breath and then say out loud how I was feeling – the process began.   This was the start of a life-change dance.  As I took a few steps in I paused; looking, listening, and awaiting his notion to connect.  It happened; he turned to acknowledge my presence; which lead me to take a few more steps toward him.  At this time, my hope of this working began to rise.  As he exhaled deep from his nostrils my coach said, he’s relaxed – go ahead and approach him.  Coming along his side I reached my hand out for the connection and he nuzzled his nose into my hand with affirmation that he too was happy to meet.  I gently stroked his cheek in celebration of this huge milestone.

Now, the next big step…will he take a few steps with me?  Was our connection strong enough for him to trust my lead?  My coach nudged me out of the comfort of our side-by-side relationship and said, “Go ahead, take a few steps.”  Sure enough, this giant horse stepped right along with me.  Exhilarating, I was humbled beyond belief by this process.  As I’ve translated this experience to human relationships it’s insight for more meaningful connections.  You see this horse taught me the importance of connection over perfection.  He accepted my frailty, insecurity and lack of experience.

Creation is God’s ultimate classroom.   Trinity, who is THE horse of the herd, shared this profound insight for humans:  “I do not understand your judgement upon one another and your interpretations of experiences, because I only respond and react to what is.  My emotions are always right.  My behaviors are just information and my senses are always perfectly honed to every sound, nuance and movement extending far beyond what you can comprehend.  Humans at one time had these skills, but through time, un-resourceful conditioning, and choosing to ignore their own emotions and feelings, they have become numb and dull to the richest and truest experiences of life.  Too many humans stand beside a tree and never hear the bird sing.”

Friend, whatever corral you are entering may you have all the more courage to trust the process, following your gut and apologize if necessary!  You’ll soon find your life unbridled, grazing in pastures of peace – digesting the fruit of congruency.  Rock back, breath and trust the process.  It’s a process, worthy of our trust.  I’m thankful to be grazing these green pastures with you.

Originally Published on  on  May 9, 2016



Rush. Ache. Push. Tired. Empty. Capacity. Consumed. Spent.
Blind. Vulnerable. Dizzy. Foggy. Robot. Deaf. 
Dying. Unmet. Broken. Heavy. Confused. Lost.
These were symptoms of our

Until it all came to a screeching HALT, we thought our lives were good, normal and prosperous!  We had no room left in our lives and everything was at max capacity – our time, our money, our bodies and health were completely and constantly spent.  We could have easily lived our entire lives in this condition, but God graciously allowed an epic failure to get our attention.  Immediately, everything STOPPED and STRANGELY…we began to hear, see and feel like never before.

As we allowed an old life to pass away and new life to emerge, a simplified view of what’s important took root in our thinking.  It became more significant to have time to talk than to have things to do.  We desired eternal life more than accumulating stuff in this life.  The prestige of what we did became a diminishing glory as we looked closer and closer at what God does. It continues to be a life-changing journey.

We still labor at keeping our lives anchored, so we don’t effortlessly drift away into the same rat race that robbed us of life before.  Simple always seems better, but what really makes life meaningful today is hearing the music of our hearts.  As a family of 5, owners of a small business and with kids ranging from teen to toddler – there’s more opportunity than ever for overloaded life.  What we’ve learned is that Harmony is the best balance.  It allows everyone to be true to who they are, on the journey to becoming who God designed them to be, in participation with others…who lovingly were joined to their lives. 

I listen for the noise of chaos and find ways to adjust the sound.   A busy schedule doesn’t necessarily mean we are out of balance, but it is most definitely followed with the soft tones of rest and relaxation.  Having nothing to do, doesn’t mean we are boring or disengaged…it just means we have room to spontaneously be available and bless.  Our commitments tend to have a more flexible form and function, but we remain deeply devoted.  It’s what works for us and hearing our hearts sing is a beautiful thing.

One of the greatest composers, Bach describes finding harmony:
In the architecture of my music I want to demonstrate to the world of the architecture of a new and beautiful social commonwealth. The secret of my harmony? I alone know it. Each instrument in counterpoint, and as many contrapuntal parts as there are instruments. It is the enlightened self-discipline of the various parts, each voluntarily imposing on itself the limits of its individual freedom for the well-being of the community. That is my message. Not the autocracy of a single stubborn melody on the one hand, nor the anarchy of unchecked noise on the other. No, a delicate balance between the two; an enlightened freedom. The science of my art. The art of my science. The harmony of the stars in the heavens, the yearning for brotherhood in the heart of man. This is the secret of my music.” – Johann Sebastian Bach
Harmony is a state of allowing people to be, belong and become!
 Make music my friends!!!